There are some movies that speak to us on a different level. These movies show us relations on levels that we experience everyday, express the emotions that we somehow fear to express because they are all bottled inside us. These movies are the ones we want to watch with our friends and loved ones because they do a better job of expressing what we feel than we manage to do ourselves. ‘Kal Ho Na Ho’ is one such film. It talks about love, life and friendship in such a beautiful way that you are left sobbing and smiling at the same time. Here are a few things that the movie teaches us about life, love, loss and friendship:
#1. On days that you feel like nothing is working out, all you have to do is believe it will because bad times don’t last forever and anything can happen if you just believe.
#2. You deserve to be loved, no matter how you look and what society tells you about it.
#3. Every family has issues and secrets but that doesn’t mean it’s a broken family. It is just a family waiting for each other’s love.
#4. People who annoy you may end up being the people you are closest to and one should never resist that.
#5. Letting go of the party animal hidden inside you, once in a while, is actually what you need in order to remain sane in this world.
#6. No problem is big enough that it can’t be solved by a collective force of family and friends combined.
#7. You are never too old to take a fresh start in life.
#8. Beyond all our differences, all we need is love, kindness and friendship. Our genders and castes and communities can only separate us to some extent, beyond that, all of us want to be with each other the most.
#9. For everyone who is not satisfied with what they have, “Tumhare paas joh hai tumhare hisaab se kam hai … lekin kisi doosre ke nazar se dekho … toh tumhare paas bahut kuch hai.”
#10. Sometimes, when you are desperate to fall in love, you forget to look for it in the most obvious place it tends to exist – friendship.
#11. If you have a best friend who doesn’t make others question your sexuality, you do not have a best friend.
#12. Sharing your problems is the best way of solving them.
#13. When you love someone, never be afraid to tell them.
#14. “Pyar ka pehla kadam dosti hai, aur aakhri bhi.”
#15. When new relations begin, one must begin them with utter honesty, even when telling the truth is the most difficult thing you have to do.
#16. Loving someone does not mean getting to be with them. It means you have to love them more than your own happiness.
#17. Most of the times in our lives, we do not know the entire truth about anything and we go on loving and hating people based on partial knowledge.
#18. However, we must find the courage and will in us to apologize once we do find out the entire matter. It is funny how some relations change entirely because of such minor truths.
#19. Everyone has their own struggles and just because you do not know them, does not mean that those struggles don’t exist. That is why it is important to be kind to everyone.
#20. Some day, you will definitely find someone who enjoys all your silliness and lame jokes and will love you for those, so hold out for them.
#21. It is important that we live in every moment, we love in every moment because as much as we think we know the life we will have, it may not be there tomorrow. SO if there is a time to be happy, a time to love and get hurt and love again, it is today, it is now.